I bet you regularly hear the word “no”. It is true that receiving a “no” from your colleague or client can be brutal, but saying “yes” to everything will not solve the problem. On the contrary. This will only increase your stress, not to mention that others will value your time less. Once you say yes too often to someone, they will start to expect it … every time …

I have encountered this problem several times. I wanted to get involved in everything and show my willingness to learn. But at some point, I learned that I had to get my feet back on the ground.

Once I started to really impose myself, things changed. Fortunately, I learned to orient myself a little more towards what I like by saying the famous no, while maintaining my working relationships as it should be. I know it’s easier said than done, but these tips can help. Read the following instead.

How to say no?

Be quick. Tell the caller immediately, but politely (very important) that you cannot do what they ask. This way you don’t delay someone else’s plans. This is also how you will move forward.

be honest. Explain that you have other commitments and that you simply cannot meet the needs of your interlocutor.

Suggest an alternative. Refer someone else to help them on your behalf.

Ask to postpone his request. Sometimes we really want to do something, but unfortunately we don’t have the time. So establish a clear schedule of your actions in order to always show your good faith and your professionalism.

Do you want to establish criteria to determine what to say yes and what to say no? Very good idea ! This will facilitate decision making. To get there, ask yourself the right questions before deciding:

  • Do I really want to do it?
  • What do I gain from doing it?
  • What has this person done for me lately?
  • What would I do with my time if I didn’t?

Answering a “no” can be awkward and certainly takes practice, but once you get over your fear of saying it, you’ll find it easy! Very easy even! Just try to be nice and polite all the time. It is the most important.

But why say no?

One of the biggest difficulties in saying no is getting FOMO (fear of missing out). But really think about the benefits of saying it:

  • You have time to do whatever you have put off;
  • You have more control over your life;
  • You will be more confident when you have to say “no” more often (I admit, the first time is the most difficult);
  • You have more confidence when you have to outdo yourself;
  • You have great possibilities at your fingertips that you didn’t even know they existed. Since you are no longer available, take advantage!

Now take your courage in both hands and say NO to what doesn’t work for you or doesn’t meet your needs. Come on, don’t be afraid to say no. You also deserve to have time for yourself 🙂

Source : The Power of Saying ‘No’